Entry #8: Long distance relationship

          A relationship is said to be a connection, as in thought, concerning or regarding something or someone. Long distance relationship is similar to normal relationship but differs in terms of geographic. If anyone ever tries to tell you that long-distance relationships are easy, they are lying. It obviously hard. I know and understand because I’m experiencing long-distance relationship right now.

          Communication is an important element of all relationships. Especially so, in the case of long distance relationships, where you can’t see the expression on your partner’s face or establish some form of physical contact as a communicative gesture, say, a comforting hug or holding hands as a token of reassurance. However, communication in a long-distance relationship has its own unique set of problems that are difficult to tackle. Nowadays with the development of technology, we can see each other, we can talk, we can hear partner’s voice, but think about it, is that enough? Absolutely not. Imagine like this, once something bad happen to you and all we can do is look to the screen and say something to make partner feel better while the important thing you need right there is a hug, hand holding and something like that. This is thing that no matter how develop of the technology is, it cannot help.

          Second isn’t less important is the impact of environment. What is the environment here? They are new jobs, new relationships, new friends and new interesting things in the new environment. When we are together, we hang out, talk, eat, work and do favorite things together. But how about when now you got a 1000 miles apart? There is nothing else than the screen, it will be so boring. Then we find out in the new environment, we still can hang out, study, and spread our relationship, we will temporary forget about our little baby. Maybe at the first time, the original thinking is you can make your relationship works, but time by time, under the impact of friends, family, and new environment, you cannot keep your mind still. “The environment can facilitate or discourage interaction among people”. This quote is the most suitable for this case.

          The problems appear over times, because we cannot see each other frequently, we lose trust to each other. Sometime, you also see some pictures that there is a girl show off, you will wonder some question like who she is, why do they take picture together, are they cheating on you, you know, girl’s imagination is endless. Then the connection will be faded, obviously, the relationship cannot get better, otherwise, get worst. Misunderstanding, fighting, ignoring each other. 1 day, 2 days, misunderstanding gradually increasing, the gap make you feel tired and don’t even want to talk because you know that the problem cannot be solved thoroughly. Over time, the relationship will go to a dead end.

          There is a sentence, “out of sight, out of mind”. That sentence is absolutely right, there is must have reason why they said so. Not all people feel like me about long distance relationship, maybe they can make it, overcome the difficulty. I tend to be a pessimist, I always perceive everything in bad way. So, I don’t know how long can I keep my relationship. They’re said that if the love is big enough, it will defeat any impediment.

The distance is nothing if we really have each other!